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During the pandemic, there was a Korean reality show that everyone was talking about and kept popping up on my social media. It’s called Single's Inferno. Ever heard of it? Or maybe you’re one of the hardcore fans? Basically, it's a dating reality show with a survival game twist. Twelve single contestants are brought together in this show, and their mission is to leave the island… all while trying to find love, of course. According to Wikipedia, the show has three seasons.

Even though there are a ton of beautiful and charming women on the show, there's one contestant whose popularity just skyrocketed. Seriously, everyone was in awe of her—men and women alike. It wasn’t just because she’s gorgeous; it was her alpha personality that made her such an icon for so many women out there. Her name is Song Jia.

I didn’t actually watch Single's Inferno, but I did follow Song Jia on Instagram, lol. She’s one of my role models. Song Jia is that type of alpha woman who’s independent, but she knows how to balance it by still showing her feminine side. After doing a little digging, I found a video from Fiercely Feminine talking about ways we can empower ourselves to be alpha women but still feminine—just like Song Jia. 

Beauty

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Even though there's that saying, "Don't judge a book by its cover," let’s be real—appearance still matters. We can’t deny it; people usually judge others based on how they look, especially when they first meet. You don’t have to be drop-dead gorgeous, but the key is to take care of what you’ve been given by God, right?

Song Jia is known for her feminine beauty, but her beauty leaves a lasting impression on everyone. I mean, if we’re talking in Indonesian terms, her beauty is the kind that doesn’t get boring, you know? So, how can we make our appearance leave an impression on others?

It’s actually pretty simple. You just gotta be open to experimenting and dive deeper to find your own aesthetic. What do I mean by that? Well, the "aesthetic" I’m talking about here is basically the visual style or look you choose for yourself, one that reflects your preferences, taste, or unique characteristics. Song Jia totally gets herself and knows what works for her, so she carefully picks makeup and accessories that align with her personality.

Mystery

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Don’t ever open up too much to people, especially when it comes to personal stuff. If I look at Song Jia’s photos, she’s the type of woman who’s got this dominant, mysterious aura. She’s not the kind to just spill everything about herself, especially to people she hasn’t built trust with yet.

If you’re still the type to overshare personal stuff, especially on social media, it’s time to switch it up, okay? Now, what if a man is trying to get close to you? You’re not gonna act all mysterious, right? You’ll just scare him off.

Well, if he runs away, let him go. That just means he wasn’t really interested in you, especially since he didn’t make an effort to earn your trust. If they wanna know more about you, they gotta work hard for it.

Being mysterious is actually a key to getting someone intrigued and wanting to learn more about you. All you need to do is drop little hints that’ll make people want to dig deeper and discover more about who you really are.

Feminine Body Language

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Even if you wanna be an alpha woman, you still gotta show that feminine body language. Like, instinctively, men always want to protect. If you're an alpha woman with a more dominant masculine side, your relationships probably won’t work out. No matter how many times you try, it won’t succeed because you always think you can do everything on your own. That mindset comes from your dominant masculine side.

When talking to others, especially men, Song Jia always makes eye contact, which shows she’s comfortable with the person and feels confident. Sometimes, she also uses feminine body language that makes men want to protect her. She knows how to control her actions so she doesn’t come off too strong compared to others.

Feminine Rest

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Even though her goal is to be an alpha woman and independent, Song Jia still lets the guys around her take the lead. She knows that if she wants to catch a guy’s attention, she has to give them the chance to show their interest and intentions.

By letting guys chase us, it lets them feel like they’re in the lead. Plus, we also need to control our independent side with graceful behavior. Not only does this trigger their natural instinct to protect us, but it also makes them feel empowered.

Taking Her Time

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In line with the concept of feminine energy—resting, receiving, and flowing—Song Jia prefers to take a laid-back approach to romance, not rushing into things because she knows how valuable time is. Instead of showing all her personality right at the beginning of a relationship and coming off as too forceful, she prefers to let her partner get to know her over time.

Self-Worth and Confidence

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Song Jia knows her worth, and everything she does shows it—from the way she walks to the words she chooses before speaking. We should all be like that. Understanding each other’s value is key to building healthy relationships. And I don’t just mean romantic relationships, but all types of relationships.

When you know your worth, you unknowingly set realistic high standards. It’s not just about confidence; it also lets others know that you are valuable and that they are too.

Empowered Mindset

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And last but not least, Song Jia teaches us to adopt an empowering mindset, showing us how to control our thoughts and not get distracted by things that don’t matter.

There’s one line she says in one of her videos that really stuck with me: I honestly don't care much about what others think. My life revolves around me and me only. I don't see others. Even if someone dislikes me, I don't care. There are so many people in this world. What does it matter if one person dislikes me?

That quote from Song Jia is perfect for those of you who tend to overthink when you find out someone doesn’t like you and then end up blaming yourselves. Remember, we weren’t created to always meet other people’s expectations.

Song Jia's unwavering self-worth and confidence, coupled with her deliberate approach to relationships, showcase a woman who knows her value and isn't afraid to walk away from anything that falls short.